Persistence is key – or so they say.
In this day and age, there is a very slim chance of succeeding in anything if you’re not persistent. However, I feel like there is a bit of an unsolicited rule in regards to how persistent you should be when it comes to a relationship of any kind.
The term ‘friend zoned’ was established in the past few years and according to Urban Dictionary it is described by some creative human as the following;
“What you attain after you fail to impress a woman you’re attracted to. Usually initiated by the woman saying, “You’re such a good friend”. Usually associated with long days of suffering and watching your love interest hop from one bad relationship to another.”
So technically you’re her new best friend – is that so hard to deal with?
I’ve had my fair share of guys that love to overindulge themselves in friendships in the hope that something more may happen. The big catch in my situations though is that most of the guys that find me amazing happen to already have a female attached to their arm. I ain’t no side chick.
But when a guy continues to ask you out or to dinner or make it official on Facebook what options are left?
I pal of mine has laid down the friend zone contract to this guy multiple times and he seems to tear it up and trash it a lot – maybe too much for my liking. They constantly indulged in the clubbing scene together with an entire group of friends. It all sounds so normal doesn’t it?
This particular male has become few up with watching my pal make out with anyone but him. He’s protective and he is really not happy about the friend label he has looming above him.
Now my opinions on this;
- If you’re twenty and want to hook up with every amazing hot guy you find, do it. Hooking up with random people isn’t my cup of tea but if it’s yours and you have nothing stopping you – don’t hold back sista!
- If you want to be an overprotective ‘friend’ then good luck. You will make your future girlfriend as miserable as she could possibly be.
- If she isn’t interested and you can’t take a hint or understand any section of her statement explaining why she is friendzoning you – then you should clarify and don’t think it’ll change in the space of a few days, weeks or months.
- The more steps you take forward, the more she’ll take backwards.
There you have it, people still don’t comprehend shit – even if you spell it out to them.