“What do I know about love? Not much-that’s the safe answer. Even when I think I have a grasp on it, something comes along to make me realize I don’t know anything at all. It’s just a concept to me. It’s the thing that all the songs are written about, the thing that makes smart people act stupidly.”
– David Levithan, How They Met, and Other Stories
That quote pretty much sums up my life. Then again, I have this deep feeling that I am still confused between like and love in a sense. Like can you fall out of love with someone you just loved a moment ago, so fast? Can you move on from love as easy as you can if you only like them?
Well I was in a relationship for a few months not too long ago, but in just over twenty days I feel as if I’ve been single for a lot longer. Maybe I fell out of love before the relationship fell out, I have no idea. Maybe I have no idea what love is, maybe I never loved that heard – I’ll never be certain. I guess sometimes things just lose their spark and other times, life events occur or a third party enters.
I have a few friends who I can recall similar like/love scenarios in which they encountered. I have a friend who is in his early thirties. He dated this gorgeous girl once many months ago, but he still brings her up in conversation now. She left him for another guy and any time my friend see’s either of them – he practically flips his shit. They only dated for a few months – or weeks – but he feels angered and vengeful because she chose another guy over him. So the other day I told him he was obsessed with her and it didn’t go down very well at all. But if you still feel angered that she chose someone else over you several months later and you have been dating other women, was it like or love?
Another friend of mine dated a guy briefly off Tinder last year, he had mentioned his intentions before anything became too heavy. Then one day she received a text message and he was gone to fulfill his intentions. She was heart broken to say the least, it was such an abrupt departure. Only yesterday did she unmatch him on Tinder. Deep down, she held onto hope.
So I guess what I’m saying is, some people can move on faster than others. Some people hold onto grudges and some hold onto hope. But can you have hope and anger if you only liked someone or could you throw the word love into the mix of emotions? It’s a mystery and so are emotions. I’ll never fully understand my own emotions let alone those of others. I guess moving on from like or love will always be hard, everyone is different. It depends on circumstances and relationships and any other factors you wish to add into the big pot of emotions.
Moving on is a chapter of life in itself.